When people think about success and leading successful lives, they usually think about money, careers, possessions and moving up the corporate ladder. Or, we think about creating and operating a successful business and getting rich in the process. Only a few will think about their personal relationships when it comes to being considered successful.
But in reality, the relationships that we create and sustain in our lives are an important part of success. The friends we make, the spouses we meet and how we treat others is an important part of who we are and what we do in this life. There are many stories out there of people who threw themselves into their careers or businesses and grew up ultra rich but had no one to share it with. For me that is kind of sad. Life is always better when you have someone to share it with.
Now please do not think that this means you need to be married in order to be successful. That is not what I am saying. You can be successful without being married as long as you have friends to share your success with. Some of us will want to be married while others prefer a single lifestyle. There is no right or wrong answer. It is a personal question that each of us must ask ourselves and answer honestly.
But as we grow our lives, careers or businesses we must set aside time to develop and nurture personal relationships as well. We need to give of ourselves and be good friends, co-workers and in all, good people.
Having good and solid relationships takes work. It is not a one way street. Every relationship involves a lot of give and take between both people. It means responding to each others needs and being there for each other as well. In other words, you need to develop and live with a sense of balance.
By that I mean that you should not immerse yourself totally in your career or business and you also should not immerse yourself in just friends and partying. You need to arrive at a balance where you have time to set aside for your career and business and time also set aside for friends and other relationships.
Some of might make a conscious decision to concentrate on our careers for the first few years and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, this is expected in certain careers. But as long as we have a plan that will include a social life and other relationships a bit later in life that is our decision. Just do not let this go on for too long or you might face an up hill battle trying to get back in the social game.
For some people making and keeping friends is an easy process while for others it can be scary and a bit intimidating. If you are in the latter group I suggest putting yourself out there in social settings in groups and try to fit in with a group setting. the pressure will be less and you can gain a bit of self confidence in the process. Plus, you never know who you will meet or what contacts will come from your efforts.
But one thing is certain. If you do not put yourself in social settings and try to get out and meet people, people are not likely to knock on your door to find you. So take a deep breath and put yourself out there. Plus, if you have friends or relationships that are not as good as they used to be, or if you have neglected people in the past, take steps to strengthen those relationships as well.
Regardless of what your chosen path might be, you want to take it with other people so you are not alone when it comes to share your life and success with someone else.